I am so tired of always having to choose to have a job or to have a child. I had a meeting with HR today, which went really well and everything is fine. But, before the meeting, I was nervous and it made me angry. Why do women have to choose one or the other? I cannot help that I have PCOS, and infertility. I cannot help that the medciations make me ill at times. I cannot help that due to my disease, I have to be monitored every week and sometimes multiple times a week.
I love my husband more than anything on this earth and would do anything for him as well. However, he does not have to choose work or a baby either . I have no ill will towards him, my ill will is towards society. When will this country value family? If I got pregnant the "natural" way and carried to term, no one would even notice. But because I cannot and I have to go through serious medical treatment, I am put into jeopardy between choosing to have a baby or choosing my job.
My choice will always be to have a baby. My husband knows that, and my employer knows that. Thank god my current employer is not making this an issue. I am truly blessed with that, even though I hate my job! But my previous employer and other women have gone through similar issues with employers. If I had cancer and had to have treatment, no one would think twice. But infertility is not viewed as a medical condition. The need to have a child is not just desire, it is NEED! It is a biological neccessity. Yes, there are some woman who do not have that maternal instinct, but I do.
I am so frustrated and angry at this countries values! I will finish my book and get this message across. Society needs a big change on this issue! My insurance covers part of my treatment, does'nt that make it a medical issue?